Can journaling really better your relationships? Turns out it can, whether it’s improving the relationship you have with yourself or with your significant others.

In its most basic form, journaling helps document what’s been going on in your life. Having it all written down (or typed up) provides a space for you to observe events after they happen.

Was that situation really as bad as it felt when it was happening?  Were you really in the right (or wrong) like you percieved yourself to be?

Journaling can help you identify what was or wasn’t going on.  Now with that being said, generally one person’s view is not really accurate and it’s important to be aware that there are two sides to each story and the reality is typically somewhere in the middle, but hopefully journaling can help you see that middle line a little more clearly.

Being able to look back on situations, with your documented proof, can help you realize what situations are best for you and which are hurting you. This, in turn, also helps you determine if you are in a healthy relationship or not.

How does that person genuinely make you feel? How do you make them feel? Are you both seeing eye to eye? With journaling, it’s easier to find the patterns in your relationship.

Aside from the more physical “this is what happened”, journaling is also a great way to express your feelings and have them validated. You can vent all that emotion all over the page, which is much healthier than bottling it up inside, while also avoiding an emotional showdown with others when you know you don’t want to fight but just get it out of your system.

Along the way, you might realize that there is something weighing heavily enough on your mind that the best thing to do is sit down with your loved one and talk it out with them. The great thing about journaling is that is can help you discover what those talk-worthy issues are and allow you to think about how best  to execute those conversations without creating chaos. 

In a broader scope, journaling helps your communication skills in general. From finding the right words for a special occasion to just exercising your brain and learning how to think healthier journaling can help you refine your communication skills.

There’s also a lot of room for self-reflection in journaling. Part of this reflection can be writing about what you want in a relationship. Everyone wants to be in a “good” relationship, right? But what does that actually mean to you? And what are some ways to find or stay in that good relationship?

If you and your significant other both want to try journaling, you can also try writing down goals you have as a couple for your relationship. This way, both of you have a place to look back and remember those goals as well as write about your progress.

Devoting time to journaling supplies you with a break time to write about what’s going on in your life and how you feel about it while also promoting opportunities for your communication skills with yourself and your loved one to grow, leading to a stronger, healthier relationships.